I am a single, successful black mother and damn proud of it. I have observed a familiar trend demonstrated repeatedly by society as far as ‘understanding’ black motherhood. For hundreds of years black women provided the manpower and nursed the babies as slaves who built this country. For all the uterine contributions of the black slave woman, America has never acknowledged this fact as an asset.
In film we see an Oscar awarded to Halle Berry in ‘Monster’s Ball.’ Ms. Berry plays a black mother who physically and verbally abuses her son who is overweight. Halle’s disdain for her son was evident. Berry’s role portrayed black mothers as being dysfunctional. We will never forget Ms. Berry giving Bill Bob Thornton fellacio – or the very explicit sex scenes, where Berry wanted to “Feel Again!” Ms. Berry is a black single mother in “Losing Isaiah” in 1995; this film was about black motherhood empowerment, and Oscar worthy.
Mr. Lee Daniels directed Ms. Berry in “Monster’s Ball”; “Precious”, a new film released November 2009 is another film on single black motherhood, also directed by Mr. Daniels. I clamored to see this film; I was inspired after reading Push by Sapphire twice. Sapphire wrote Push in 1996, a brutal look into black single motherhood. At the same time, Push is empowering as Precious learns to read and write; her world changes. This movie is supported by both Oprah Winfrey and Tyler Perry’s production companies. I was one of seven blacks in a predominately white audience at the Jacob Burns Film Center.
I also had the opportunity to meet Mr. Daniels, an African American gay man who was also raised by a single mother. Mr. Daniels’ father died leaving Lee’s mother to raise the children with Lee being the oldest at age 12 and recalls physical abuse in his home while growing up. I was able to garner information listening to Mr. Daniels speak in his bemused awe of his success:
• “Hollywood does not want to see these kinds of films up here on screen. I shot this movie and I was ready for it to go straight to DVD.”
• “Push the novel is very sexual – I had to watch what I used from the book, otherwise the movie would have never been shown.”
• “I got a call from Oprah because Tyler Perry called her. She asked me: ‘What can we do to help you?’”
• “I have been after Sapphire for years to let me do her book as a film.”
• “Racism is over in America.”
I thought about the book Push – I read it twice. Society does ‘push’ our black students to the side. Precious believed she was doing well in school despite having a reading level below second grade. Precious stated: “I got an A in my class for just sitting there and keeping my mouth shut.” Precious could not open her math textbook because she could not read the page numbers. She passed that class also.
Daniels referred to Push as being very sexual (it is); he could not put the intense sex in the film otherwise, it would not have been shown. I can still visualize Berry’s sex scenes with Thornton in “Monster’s Ball.”
Daniels stated: “Hollywood does not want to see this kind of film” On the contrary, I was one of seven blacks in an all white audience that voyeuristically pulled back the curtain of the black family and avidly watched a single black mother abuse, neglect and destroy her child. I do see Hollywood’s acceptance; I do see every white person who left that theatre after viewing this film believing they ‘know’ black families. I do believe the impact of this film places black single motherhood with a negative distinction of being permanently dysfunctional.
There have been other movies made showing empowerment in white single motherhood: Norma Rae, Mask, Erin Brockovich and Silkwood. There are also a few movies made showing black motherhood empowerment, although this message is not direct, but oblique. “A Secret Life of Bees and American Violet”, which show black mothers as head of household in a home that, is stable and nurturing with feminine unity. These films go by silently and receive almost no publicity, no celebrity endorsements and are challenging to see in a theatre or to own once released as a DVD.
“American Violet” was shown in a limited amount of theatres - a film about the unjust law system: a black single mother almost loses her life and her children by being falsely accused and pressured to plea bargain – a very lucrative business in the USA. This empowered single black mother was brutally judged by white men – representing society about her having multiple children for different men – no husband. The very same act black women were forced to do under slavery.
Black motherhood is not always in a state of dysfunction. There are many black single mothers both past and present that have successfully raised their children – Mr. Daniels is one of them. Many magazines have celebrity single mothers post articles and columns and yet the ‘average’ black single mother is invisible.
Go see the movie “Precious”; ask yourself about Push. How many films are made depicting black mother empowerment and success? The message is very clear: it’s hypocrisy to all of the self esteem building programs for girls of color when Hollywood only shows black women portrayed as being dysfunctional. Daniels said racism in America is over, I don’t believe it is. Mr. Daniels is very talented at what he does but is black single motherhood the sacrificial lamb of cinema projects? The fallout from the fascination of viewing black motherhood as being dysfunctional is a high price to pay – Is the little gold statue is worth it?
©Lion’s Way, Inc. 2009
Monday, November 16, 2009
Sunday, August 2, 2009
The Making of a Drug Addict
The Making of a Drug Addict
By Denise Bolds, MSW August 2, 2009
Pharmaceutical drug addiction is not just ascribed to the wealthy and affluent; in fact anyone whom a medical physician writes a prescription for is susceptible. This slippery slope on impropriety is justified by over nine years of college medical education and residency, and by the FDA. Just how accessible are prescribed medications anyway?
One day, I was talking with my neighbor, a college educated woman. I confessed to her that I have been having trouble sleeping. I even looked like I was sleep depraved. My neighbor in her innocence replied: “I have just the thing for you!” She went into her purse and took out a small brown bottle. My neighbor placed a small pill into the palm of my hand; it was smaller than a tic-tac and had a very light peach color. “Take this tonight before going to bed” she instructed “Make sure you can sleep for 8 hours uninterrupted, so turn off your phone – this will put you to sleep and you will feel great after having a good sleep!” My neighbor in all of her benevolent innocence did what millions of other people do: give that helpful little pill to someone else – my neighbor did not ask me if I had any medical conditions or allergies to medications, she did not instruct me not to have any alcohol with this cute little pill – she just gave me some ‘help’ and ADVISED ME TO TURN OFF MY PHONE.
Suppose I did take the pill (I did not, in fact I still have it to this very day) I am a medical nightmare – I am allergic to everything, from tetanus to penicillin and the list grows every year I get older. I have no way of knowing if I am allergic to Ambien or Luniestra; by turning off the phone, family nor friends could not wake me up with an annoying ringing telephone - sounds like a deadly scenario for sure.
The ‘abuse’ of pharmaceuticals occurs thousands of times a day and with the health care crisis resulting in over14 million people in America without health care coverage; you can bet pills are being circulated faster than a twitter on a cell phone. As a medical social worker I have witnessed the extent of Rx addiction – more subtle than Matt Dillon in Drug Store Cowboy. (Which EVERYONE should watch…). Millions upon millions of Americans are addicted to pharmaceutical drugs and there is no relief in sight.
Injuries, surgery and medical complications that are 10, 15, 25 years old are STILL being treated with Vicodin, Oxycodone, Dilaudid, Tylenol #3, Percocet and so on. The American Medical Association (AMA) and the FDA (Food & Drug Administration) produces weak outreach in educating about the high incidents of addiction and medical complications of pain killers. Pain killers kill the pain by killing the body the pain is in. Pain killers block pain receptors – also blocks the body’s ability to respond to respiration and functioning as a whole – EVERYTHING slows down with utilizing pain killers, all metabolic action and respiration as well as eating. There is a loss of appetite, breathing/respiration decreases resulting in fluid accumulating in the lungs, there is a massive absorption of water as a result of taking pain killers, constipation occurs. This waste cannot be eliminated properly so the body becomes toxic and sluggish. All of the things necessary to promote healing after surgery or injury are thrown out of the window. You won’t eat well, eliminate waste well, ambulate well, healing is prolonged and other complications can result. Pain killers and muscle relaxants disorient, sedate and slow body responses. These pills are taken by mothers, machine operators, drivers, teachers, police officers, air pilots, and more resulting in reduced judgment ability, decreased quick responses as well as being lucid – all compromised by a pill.
These medications are highly addictive as indicative by both the AMA and FDA, but these pills are still dispensed at 30-60-90 pills at a time. American health care system has become so Rx dependant that Workman’s Compensation and Social Security Disability all rely upon Rx records to validate how ill or injured a person really is.
The body processes pain as the result of surgery or injury – alerting the brain - too much pain places the body in distress. Remember that surgery, fracture, tooth extraction or sprain does heal – the body does heal. The claim is that you may not be at 100% prior to injury, accidents or surgery – you were not 100% anyway – if you were, you would not need that above. The goal is to have a patient at 100% is totally deceptive and not natural. Every day, the human body ages and dies off; cells at a time. An 89 year old is not at 100% after all he is 89 years old.
Pharmaceuticals are not just regarded to pain, many co morbidities such as hypertension, diabetes , seizure disorders and more require Rx intervention have reactions that are detrimental to being healthy: visual impairment, loss of appetite, insomnia, depression, decreased libido and the most prevalent – obesity!
Americans have been fighting the fat for decades. Many Americans are overweight not because of lifestyle but because of a prescribed medication. It is a double edged sword for many who fight diabetes yet the very insulin prescribed has a counter indication of weight gain. Mental health diagnoses that require Rx maintenance also face this deadly dilemma: many of the very same prescribed medications recommended by physicians have a negative outcome – weight gain. The remedy for weight loss – take another pill!
So why is it that the AMA & FDA continue to support the dispensing of these high addictive mediations that often have serious side effects? Many health care professionals will attest to the belief that “The reaction is milder than the disease itself.” My question: for how long? A diabetic of 20 years relies upon insulin management puts on an average weight gain of 7 pounds a year – a weight gain of 140 pounds from Rx alone – not including weight gain from age, genetic pre-dispositioning or any other co morbidity. There have been investigations in pharmaceutical research that has generated warnings of taking these drugs: For example, OxyContin, a drug used to control pain has been deemed highly addictive and the company, Perdue Pharma LP and its executives have all been charged and prosecuted for “Unleashing a highly abusable, addictive and potentially dangerous drug on an unsuspecting, unknowing public.” Perdue Pharma LP has been ordered to pay $634.5 million in fines for knowingly promoting this highly addictive drug in 2007. (S. Lindsey Associated Press, May 2007).
How can this be stopped? Educate the patient. Pain is a normal body process and cannot be totally diminished. Childbirth and labor is a natural process and yet as soon as a mother leans she is pregnant, she is immediately developing her birth plan to be pain free with lots of pain medication during delivery and yet she wants a healthy baby. Can the research be correlated to the increase in ADD/AHD children in the past 20 years is related to the mother’s use of drugs during delivery? Pain Management is a proactive as well as reactive process. We must educate on the levels of pain and its relationship within the body. We must also embrace that this not a pain free world. Is the pharmaceutical presence in western medicine a systematic dependence that results in profit and job security? That is a question that must be answered. Are the benefits out weighing the risks? How many friends and family are dying from complications of treatment (medications) rather than the actual disease itself?
By Denise Bolds, MSW August 2, 2009
Pharmaceutical drug addiction is not just ascribed to the wealthy and affluent; in fact anyone whom a medical physician writes a prescription for is susceptible. This slippery slope on impropriety is justified by over nine years of college medical education and residency, and by the FDA. Just how accessible are prescribed medications anyway?
One day, I was talking with my neighbor, a college educated woman. I confessed to her that I have been having trouble sleeping. I even looked like I was sleep depraved. My neighbor in her innocence replied: “I have just the thing for you!” She went into her purse and took out a small brown bottle. My neighbor placed a small pill into the palm of my hand; it was smaller than a tic-tac and had a very light peach color. “Take this tonight before going to bed” she instructed “Make sure you can sleep for 8 hours uninterrupted, so turn off your phone – this will put you to sleep and you will feel great after having a good sleep!” My neighbor in all of her benevolent innocence did what millions of other people do: give that helpful little pill to someone else – my neighbor did not ask me if I had any medical conditions or allergies to medications, she did not instruct me not to have any alcohol with this cute little pill – she just gave me some ‘help’ and ADVISED ME TO TURN OFF MY PHONE.
Suppose I did take the pill (I did not, in fact I still have it to this very day) I am a medical nightmare – I am allergic to everything, from tetanus to penicillin and the list grows every year I get older. I have no way of knowing if I am allergic to Ambien or Luniestra; by turning off the phone, family nor friends could not wake me up with an annoying ringing telephone - sounds like a deadly scenario for sure.
The ‘abuse’ of pharmaceuticals occurs thousands of times a day and with the health care crisis resulting in over14 million people in America without health care coverage; you can bet pills are being circulated faster than a twitter on a cell phone. As a medical social worker I have witnessed the extent of Rx addiction – more subtle than Matt Dillon in Drug Store Cowboy. (Which EVERYONE should watch…). Millions upon millions of Americans are addicted to pharmaceutical drugs and there is no relief in sight.
Injuries, surgery and medical complications that are 10, 15, 25 years old are STILL being treated with Vicodin, Oxycodone, Dilaudid, Tylenol #3, Percocet and so on. The American Medical Association (AMA) and the FDA (Food & Drug Administration) produces weak outreach in educating about the high incidents of addiction and medical complications of pain killers. Pain killers kill the pain by killing the body the pain is in. Pain killers block pain receptors – also blocks the body’s ability to respond to respiration and functioning as a whole – EVERYTHING slows down with utilizing pain killers, all metabolic action and respiration as well as eating. There is a loss of appetite, breathing/respiration decreases resulting in fluid accumulating in the lungs, there is a massive absorption of water as a result of taking pain killers, constipation occurs. This waste cannot be eliminated properly so the body becomes toxic and sluggish. All of the things necessary to promote healing after surgery or injury are thrown out of the window. You won’t eat well, eliminate waste well, ambulate well, healing is prolonged and other complications can result. Pain killers and muscle relaxants disorient, sedate and slow body responses. These pills are taken by mothers, machine operators, drivers, teachers, police officers, air pilots, and more resulting in reduced judgment ability, decreased quick responses as well as being lucid – all compromised by a pill.
These medications are highly addictive as indicative by both the AMA and FDA, but these pills are still dispensed at 30-60-90 pills at a time. American health care system has become so Rx dependant that Workman’s Compensation and Social Security Disability all rely upon Rx records to validate how ill or injured a person really is.
The body processes pain as the result of surgery or injury – alerting the brain - too much pain places the body in distress. Remember that surgery, fracture, tooth extraction or sprain does heal – the body does heal. The claim is that you may not be at 100% prior to injury, accidents or surgery – you were not 100% anyway – if you were, you would not need that above. The goal is to have a patient at 100% is totally deceptive and not natural. Every day, the human body ages and dies off; cells at a time. An 89 year old is not at 100% after all he is 89 years old.
Pharmaceuticals are not just regarded to pain, many co morbidities such as hypertension, diabetes , seizure disorders and more require Rx intervention have reactions that are detrimental to being healthy: visual impairment, loss of appetite, insomnia, depression, decreased libido and the most prevalent – obesity!
Americans have been fighting the fat for decades. Many Americans are overweight not because of lifestyle but because of a prescribed medication. It is a double edged sword for many who fight diabetes yet the very insulin prescribed has a counter indication of weight gain. Mental health diagnoses that require Rx maintenance also face this deadly dilemma: many of the very same prescribed medications recommended by physicians have a negative outcome – weight gain. The remedy for weight loss – take another pill!
So why is it that the AMA & FDA continue to support the dispensing of these high addictive mediations that often have serious side effects? Many health care professionals will attest to the belief that “The reaction is milder than the disease itself.” My question: for how long? A diabetic of 20 years relies upon insulin management puts on an average weight gain of 7 pounds a year – a weight gain of 140 pounds from Rx alone – not including weight gain from age, genetic pre-dispositioning or any other co morbidity. There have been investigations in pharmaceutical research that has generated warnings of taking these drugs: For example, OxyContin, a drug used to control pain has been deemed highly addictive and the company, Perdue Pharma LP and its executives have all been charged and prosecuted for “Unleashing a highly abusable, addictive and potentially dangerous drug on an unsuspecting, unknowing public.” Perdue Pharma LP has been ordered to pay $634.5 million in fines for knowingly promoting this highly addictive drug in 2007. (S. Lindsey Associated Press, May 2007).
How can this be stopped? Educate the patient. Pain is a normal body process and cannot be totally diminished. Childbirth and labor is a natural process and yet as soon as a mother leans she is pregnant, she is immediately developing her birth plan to be pain free with lots of pain medication during delivery and yet she wants a healthy baby. Can the research be correlated to the increase in ADD/AHD children in the past 20 years is related to the mother’s use of drugs during delivery? Pain Management is a proactive as well as reactive process. We must educate on the levels of pain and its relationship within the body. We must also embrace that this not a pain free world. Is the pharmaceutical presence in western medicine a systematic dependence that results in profit and job security? That is a question that must be answered. Are the benefits out weighing the risks? How many friends and family are dying from complications of treatment (medications) rather than the actual disease itself?
Friday, February 27, 2009
2009 Blacks Still Have NOT Over Come
2009 Blacks Still Have NOT Over Come
By Denise Bolds 2/27/2009
For years blacks have not trusted the police and it is easy to understand why. The latest news of police officers in Harrison, NY placing racist material targeting President Obama on Facebook comes as no surprise. The hypocrisy is in the fact that these men took an oath to serve and protect the community both black and white. It is not enough that these officers were suspended immediately; how many other police officers feel the same way yet work as law enforcers every day? Remember, police carry guns. It has been said that guns don’t kill; it’s the people who hold them. Can a police officer’s oath be considered valid when that officer is racist with a gun in his hand?
Unlike white people, blacks have to be aware of their race and ethnicity every day, all of the time – it is not a choice but a reality that is inherent within a race. Home is not a sanctuary from racism; many neighborhoods don’t want black residents. It is also known that mortgage banks avoided black applicants and real estate agents direct blacks to certain neighborhoods for housing than others.
Racism affects one’s health, but don’t expect a black patient to be treated as well as a white one or for there to be an adequate availability of black physicians to treat black patients. The American Medical Association (AMA)recently issued a formal apology for committing discriminatory acts againt black U.S. physicians for over a century. The AMA excluded black physicians from participating in discussions and studies to reduce racial disparities in medicine. A profession under oath (Hippocratic) has supported racism for over a century.
Have blacks over come with President Barak Obama? NO. Obama, an ivy league educated African American became the 44th President of the United States of America January 2009 after a blistering campaign where Obama was depicted as not being qualified to lead a nation, being Muslim and being called “That One” by Senator John Mc Cain. All of this after America elected Former President George W. Bush at a huge cost; a recession and economic crisis that have not been seen in the United States since the Depression.
Political cartoons are racially toned and yet protected by the Fifth Amendment. The New York Post’s cartoon is not the only racist toned cartoon targeting President Obama. Politicians, public servants are sending racially toned cartoons: Los Alamitos California, Orange County Mayor Dean Grose sent out the following email: the White House and the front lawn is replaced with a watermelon patch with the caption: “No Easter Egg Hunt this year.” Mayor Grose’s email is just the tip of the huge iceberg on racism here in the United States of America. Mayor Grose has resigned from his post as Mayor after his gross act and has stated that he did not know that associating watermelons and blacks was derogatory.
Blacks must not be complacent with the election of President Barak Obama. Racism is NOT over in America; in fact this presidency has exacerbated this destructive behavior and belief. Blacks also cannot be distracted with the ignorance of these racist actions that cleverly hide behind the Fifth Amendment. White Americans actions describe a life of being unrestricted and uncensored – White is Right. This attitude prevails in actions that dominate history books and news.
There is another photo circulating about a window display at Barnes & Noble Bookstore: Books of Barak and Michelle Obama are displayed with a book about monkeys in the middle. It not clear if this photo is a hoax or not – the fact is these inflammatory acts are ugly and unnecessary.
The election of President Obama does not mean blacks have overcome – America has to understand that this presidency is the most important in the history of the United States. President Obama said in his recent speech The State of The Union Address: “The world is watching America” Very true. It will take more than a black president to cure racism in America.
By Denise Bolds 2/27/2009
For years blacks have not trusted the police and it is easy to understand why. The latest news of police officers in Harrison, NY placing racist material targeting President Obama on Facebook comes as no surprise. The hypocrisy is in the fact that these men took an oath to serve and protect the community both black and white. It is not enough that these officers were suspended immediately; how many other police officers feel the same way yet work as law enforcers every day? Remember, police carry guns. It has been said that guns don’t kill; it’s the people who hold them. Can a police officer’s oath be considered valid when that officer is racist with a gun in his hand?
Unlike white people, blacks have to be aware of their race and ethnicity every day, all of the time – it is not a choice but a reality that is inherent within a race. Home is not a sanctuary from racism; many neighborhoods don’t want black residents. It is also known that mortgage banks avoided black applicants and real estate agents direct blacks to certain neighborhoods for housing than others.
Racism affects one’s health, but don’t expect a black patient to be treated as well as a white one or for there to be an adequate availability of black physicians to treat black patients. The American Medical Association (AMA)recently issued a formal apology for committing discriminatory acts againt black U.S. physicians for over a century. The AMA excluded black physicians from participating in discussions and studies to reduce racial disparities in medicine. A profession under oath (Hippocratic) has supported racism for over a century.
Have blacks over come with President Barak Obama? NO. Obama, an ivy league educated African American became the 44th President of the United States of America January 2009 after a blistering campaign where Obama was depicted as not being qualified to lead a nation, being Muslim and being called “That One” by Senator John Mc Cain. All of this after America elected Former President George W. Bush at a huge cost; a recession and economic crisis that have not been seen in the United States since the Depression.
Political cartoons are racially toned and yet protected by the Fifth Amendment. The New York Post’s cartoon is not the only racist toned cartoon targeting President Obama. Politicians, public servants are sending racially toned cartoons: Los Alamitos California, Orange County Mayor Dean Grose sent out the following email: the White House and the front lawn is replaced with a watermelon patch with the caption: “No Easter Egg Hunt this year.” Mayor Grose’s email is just the tip of the huge iceberg on racism here in the United States of America. Mayor Grose has resigned from his post as Mayor after his gross act and has stated that he did not know that associating watermelons and blacks was derogatory.
Blacks must not be complacent with the election of President Barak Obama. Racism is NOT over in America; in fact this presidency has exacerbated this destructive behavior and belief. Blacks also cannot be distracted with the ignorance of these racist actions that cleverly hide behind the Fifth Amendment. White Americans actions describe a life of being unrestricted and uncensored – White is Right. This attitude prevails in actions that dominate history books and news.
There is another photo circulating about a window display at Barnes & Noble Bookstore: Books of Barak and Michelle Obama are displayed with a book about monkeys in the middle. It not clear if this photo is a hoax or not – the fact is these inflammatory acts are ugly and unnecessary.
The election of President Obama does not mean blacks have overcome – America has to understand that this presidency is the most important in the history of the United States. President Obama said in his recent speech The State of The Union Address: “The world is watching America” Very true. It will take more than a black president to cure racism in America.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
The Preservation of a Presidency
The Preservation of a Presidency
January 21, 2009 history was made in America – millions upon millions witnessed a black man take the oath as the 44th President of the United States of America. This event was the most viewed in the history of television - globally. America is being watched by the entire world.
In all her glory, America in her young history is wrought with discrimination. Slaves, blacks have built the majority of America – the only ethnicity with the longest duration of free labor. Hundreds of years of free labor has generated some of the most beautiful and monumental edifices in America.
The evolution from slave to 3/5th of a man, to inventor, innovator, civil rights leader, star athlete, millionaire, and finally President has been slow and frequented with racial hatred, retaliation, stigmas and passive aggressiveness. Every other race can and has ascribed and obtained success without the hatred and violence that is directed at the black man, woman and child.
President Obama is asking for diligent patience, sacrifice and service. We Americans must change: how we eat, heat, travel, where we sleep and how we communicate with one another; Americans must undergo a complete change of lifestyle. Americans must become eco-friendly to save energy and water. Americans must also become bio-friendly; we must protect and promote good health.
Obama’s Presidency comes at a time of depletion, deception and degradation in a country where its people are distracted, depressed and disenfranchised. This presidency is very serious and comes with huge risks.
President Obama has received ‘volumes’ of death threats from white supremacists and ignorant individuals who cannot understand that everything in the United States of America has been influenced and/or built by the black slave and his descendants. Racism must be destroyed for America to prevail. This presidency is vital to humanity and the future – our children. We have to leave a safe plant and a manageable debt to children who grow up healthy to become contributors in society. President Obama’s all inclusive model supports change. Obama’s Inaugural Speech incited many because he included ‘non-believers’. This large group of non-denominational people pay taxes vote and serve in the armed forces and should not be excluded. America is very good a separatism and exclusion of groups; all under the guise of freedom and democracy.
The 2009 Inauguration was wondrous; while so many were caught up in the moment – one must also observe the people around the Obamas. Former President Bush’s facial expressions at times mirrored fierce ambilivance. Former Vice President Cheney could not stand at Obama’s swearing in for a pulled muscle in his back from moving boxes. Dick Cheney has had heart surgery and he is moving boxes? The story does not seem plausible – what is understood is that former Vice President Cheney frequented hunting clubs where the Confederate Flag is still hung proudly. Did the Former Vice President refuse to stand for the first black president of the United States of America? Chief Justice Roberts fumbles in administering the Presidential Oath to Obama; who graciously allowed Roberts to correct himself. Obama went onto repeat the oath correctly the very next day – to dispel any question of Obama’s authenticity of his presidency. Was Chief Robert’s ‘slip’ accidental?
Take a good look at the plethora of photos taken on Inaugural Day. Examine these photos closely; there are some surprising emotions in the sea of love and hope. With blessing comes responsibility and sacrifice in the wisdom it brings. Americans must build on this sea of hope and not just sit back and enjoy the ride as done in the past. Malcolm X once said: “By any means necessary.” Every American must be prepared to give the ultimate sacrifice change demands.
As President Obama enters his four year term we must be ready to battle racism and the ignorance it breeds with our very lives. Americans must be the human shield protecting President Obama and his family. The Obamas stepped up and a took huge risk as a black family running for President of the United States; a country that supported slavery for 400 years and still oppresses African Americans today. The election of Barak Obama as the first black president of the United States has not absolved nor ended racism. Blacks must not forget our history of over 400 years of oppression based upon the color of our skin and the ignorance of stigmas and exploitation.
Americans must demonstrate courage and unity – the same as our ancestors did; many giving the ultimate sacrifice – their lives. The same sacrifice is expected of us today if we are to destroy racism and the ignorance it breeds. Racism is traumatizing – it destroys both mind and body. Supporting President Obama is beyond wearing logo clothing, collecting commerable comic books, cards, bumper stickers, coins and the plethora of merchandise that is out there (which in and unto itself is a form of exploitation with no proceeds from what is sold going to the Obama Campaign/Causes). Americans must intensify their support of President Obama because the world is watching and our future our, children are at risk.
People get ready, change is here - are you ready to pay for your children’s future? Are you ready to preserve this presidency? This is the most important presidency in the history of America. Are you ready to sacrifice by any means necessary for the common good? Past actions of greed and excess has resulted in Americans now having to face the above questions that simply cannot be avoided any longer. Martin Luther King Jr. said: “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” I know where I stand, right in-between President Obama and his family against the violence of racism. I stand here for my son’s future, I stand here for America.
Denise Bolds, MSW.
January 21, 2009 history was made in America – millions upon millions witnessed a black man take the oath as the 44th President of the United States of America. This event was the most viewed in the history of television - globally. America is being watched by the entire world.
In all her glory, America in her young history is wrought with discrimination. Slaves, blacks have built the majority of America – the only ethnicity with the longest duration of free labor. Hundreds of years of free labor has generated some of the most beautiful and monumental edifices in America.
The evolution from slave to 3/5th of a man, to inventor, innovator, civil rights leader, star athlete, millionaire, and finally President has been slow and frequented with racial hatred, retaliation, stigmas and passive aggressiveness. Every other race can and has ascribed and obtained success without the hatred and violence that is directed at the black man, woman and child.
President Obama is asking for diligent patience, sacrifice and service. We Americans must change: how we eat, heat, travel, where we sleep and how we communicate with one another; Americans must undergo a complete change of lifestyle. Americans must become eco-friendly to save energy and water. Americans must also become bio-friendly; we must protect and promote good health.
Obama’s Presidency comes at a time of depletion, deception and degradation in a country where its people are distracted, depressed and disenfranchised. This presidency is very serious and comes with huge risks.
President Obama has received ‘volumes’ of death threats from white supremacists and ignorant individuals who cannot understand that everything in the United States of America has been influenced and/or built by the black slave and his descendants. Racism must be destroyed for America to prevail. This presidency is vital to humanity and the future – our children. We have to leave a safe plant and a manageable debt to children who grow up healthy to become contributors in society. President Obama’s all inclusive model supports change. Obama’s Inaugural Speech incited many because he included ‘non-believers’. This large group of non-denominational people pay taxes vote and serve in the armed forces and should not be excluded. America is very good a separatism and exclusion of groups; all under the guise of freedom and democracy.
The 2009 Inauguration was wondrous; while so many were caught up in the moment – one must also observe the people around the Obamas. Former President Bush’s facial expressions at times mirrored fierce ambilivance. Former Vice President Cheney could not stand at Obama’s swearing in for a pulled muscle in his back from moving boxes. Dick Cheney has had heart surgery and he is moving boxes? The story does not seem plausible – what is understood is that former Vice President Cheney frequented hunting clubs where the Confederate Flag is still hung proudly. Did the Former Vice President refuse to stand for the first black president of the United States of America? Chief Justice Roberts fumbles in administering the Presidential Oath to Obama; who graciously allowed Roberts to correct himself. Obama went onto repeat the oath correctly the very next day – to dispel any question of Obama’s authenticity of his presidency. Was Chief Robert’s ‘slip’ accidental?
Take a good look at the plethora of photos taken on Inaugural Day. Examine these photos closely; there are some surprising emotions in the sea of love and hope. With blessing comes responsibility and sacrifice in the wisdom it brings. Americans must build on this sea of hope and not just sit back and enjoy the ride as done in the past. Malcolm X once said: “By any means necessary.” Every American must be prepared to give the ultimate sacrifice change demands.
As President Obama enters his four year term we must be ready to battle racism and the ignorance it breeds with our very lives. Americans must be the human shield protecting President Obama and his family. The Obamas stepped up and a took huge risk as a black family running for President of the United States; a country that supported slavery for 400 years and still oppresses African Americans today. The election of Barak Obama as the first black president of the United States has not absolved nor ended racism. Blacks must not forget our history of over 400 years of oppression based upon the color of our skin and the ignorance of stigmas and exploitation.
Americans must demonstrate courage and unity – the same as our ancestors did; many giving the ultimate sacrifice – their lives. The same sacrifice is expected of us today if we are to destroy racism and the ignorance it breeds. Racism is traumatizing – it destroys both mind and body. Supporting President Obama is beyond wearing logo clothing, collecting commerable comic books, cards, bumper stickers, coins and the plethora of merchandise that is out there (which in and unto itself is a form of exploitation with no proceeds from what is sold going to the Obama Campaign/Causes). Americans must intensify their support of President Obama because the world is watching and our future our, children are at risk.
People get ready, change is here - are you ready to pay for your children’s future? Are you ready to preserve this presidency? This is the most important presidency in the history of America. Are you ready to sacrifice by any means necessary for the common good? Past actions of greed and excess has resulted in Americans now having to face the above questions that simply cannot be avoided any longer. Martin Luther King Jr. said: “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” I know where I stand, right in-between President Obama and his family against the violence of racism. I stand here for my son’s future, I stand here for America.
Denise Bolds, MSW.
Monday, February 9, 2009
White Single Mother = OK Black Single Mother NO WAY!!!
The Evident Double Standard – Or Should I Say 14…
I am a black single mother for the past 18 years and I am proud of my distinction. My son is a freshman in college and he is off to a wonderful future that I supported him to. These years have not always been rosy and kind, there have been challenges.
Being a black single mother in the eyes of society is not considered trendy, chic or glorifying – in fact, I am a double statistic; society believes it would be better if my black baby and all single mother black babies would be destroyed. Society has not censored its views on black single motherhood. I can remember wearing my wedding band for a long time after my divorce while my son was still a baby. The looks, hostile stares and innuendos were all based upon stigmas from slavery. It did not matter that I am a working professional with a nanny to take care of my son while I worked. My son and I were not accepted by society and we were expected to fail.
Imagine the range of emotions I went through as I am sure many other black single mothers did upon hearing the octuplet’s birth mother already having six children at home.
This white single mother under the age of 30 lives off of Workman’s Compensation, no profession and no husband. Some of her six children are disabled and obtain benefits.
The hypocrisy of society is quite evident: It is ok to be a white single mother, but to be a black single mother is unacceptable. As a medical social worker, there are many questions that come to my mind – the most prevalent being: Who is helping this mother to support and care for her 14 children? What medical professional would impregnate a woman in this scenario?
I do understand that the medical professional is limited to what the patient discloses, but this case almost seems unreal.
For years there has been ‘scientific’ data supporting the theories of why black single parenting is a burden on society and the correlation of the burden being the result of no father being present for financial and parental support. This white woman under the age of 30, living on disability checks is in a home that her parents have brought for her and she is the mother of six children, decides that she ‘wants her eggs’ and gets impregnated with eight more? Was there a psychological evaluation done on this woman?
It is reported that this mother came into the hospital already four months pregnant with 8 fetuses – whom preformed the invitro fertilization? There is a sad and obvious psychosis here waiting to be diagnosed. Once these babies become older- will this 27 year old want to become pregnant again? There are reported inconsistencies in the medical history of this mother that her own parents are contesting.
This single white mother under the age of 30 now has a publicist, numerous television appearances, possible book deal and reality television show in the works. Someone will donate a house, van and diapers for all of these children – all of these actions glorifying what black single mothers are and have been judged and persecuted for by society for hundreds of years.
The repercussions are many, as a medical social worker, I know the cost of a premature infant being in the NICU (neo-natal intensive care unit) ranges between $15-20 thousand dollars per day – times that by eight babies, about $140,000 per day – for about two months (60 days) until they can be discharged to home. This does not include the cost to deliver these babies or the prenatal by a Perinatologist. Who is paying for all of this? What quality of life will these preemies have? Premature infants require lots of care and lots of dollars to fund the care they receive – at whose expense?
The mother of these babies is out on Workman’s Compensation for a back injury sustained at work – carrying eight fetuses would certainly exacerbate the back injury. Does this mean the mother collects Workman’s Compensation for life? There is no way this mother can support these babies alone financially without receiving public assistance unless she was born a Kennedy, and I don’t see them having litters of babies either.
Has this woman been enabled by society? Does this woman have a psychosis? Her rationale for having all of these children is: “They are my eggs and I want to have them.”
Women are born usually with two ovaries, both having hundreds of unfertilized eggs. Does this mother intend to try to birth them all? The fertilization process in sexual reproduction occurs for a reason; it is nature’s way of promoting natural selection. If science did not intervene, how many of these eggs would eventually become human beings?
The quality of life has to be strongly questioned for these children – all 14 of them. This scenario is unnatural and unethical, requiring both investigation and prosecution. The medical profession has revealed its dark side with these births. The quality of life has not been considered. Science, notoriety, and fame are dominant. To openly support this white woman who is under the age of 30 and unmarried with 14 children is to openly admit that black single mothers have been and continue to be stigmatized by society. Just in case there may be some doubt of the validity of my statements - here is a breakdown of the costs to care for these children: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090212/ap_on_re_us/octuplets
I am a black single mother for the past 18 years and I am proud of my distinction. My son is a freshman in college and he is off to a wonderful future that I supported him to. These years have not always been rosy and kind, there have been challenges.
Being a black single mother in the eyes of society is not considered trendy, chic or glorifying – in fact, I am a double statistic; society believes it would be better if my black baby and all single mother black babies would be destroyed. Society has not censored its views on black single motherhood. I can remember wearing my wedding band for a long time after my divorce while my son was still a baby. The looks, hostile stares and innuendos were all based upon stigmas from slavery. It did not matter that I am a working professional with a nanny to take care of my son while I worked. My son and I were not accepted by society and we were expected to fail.
Imagine the range of emotions I went through as I am sure many other black single mothers did upon hearing the octuplet’s birth mother already having six children at home.
This white single mother under the age of 30 lives off of Workman’s Compensation, no profession and no husband. Some of her six children are disabled and obtain benefits.
The hypocrisy of society is quite evident: It is ok to be a white single mother, but to be a black single mother is unacceptable. As a medical social worker, there are many questions that come to my mind – the most prevalent being: Who is helping this mother to support and care for her 14 children? What medical professional would impregnate a woman in this scenario?
I do understand that the medical professional is limited to what the patient discloses, but this case almost seems unreal.
For years there has been ‘scientific’ data supporting the theories of why black single parenting is a burden on society and the correlation of the burden being the result of no father being present for financial and parental support. This white woman under the age of 30, living on disability checks is in a home that her parents have brought for her and she is the mother of six children, decides that she ‘wants her eggs’ and gets impregnated with eight more? Was there a psychological evaluation done on this woman?
It is reported that this mother came into the hospital already four months pregnant with 8 fetuses – whom preformed the invitro fertilization? There is a sad and obvious psychosis here waiting to be diagnosed. Once these babies become older- will this 27 year old want to become pregnant again? There are reported inconsistencies in the medical history of this mother that her own parents are contesting.
This single white mother under the age of 30 now has a publicist, numerous television appearances, possible book deal and reality television show in the works. Someone will donate a house, van and diapers for all of these children – all of these actions glorifying what black single mothers are and have been judged and persecuted for by society for hundreds of years.
The repercussions are many, as a medical social worker, I know the cost of a premature infant being in the NICU (neo-natal intensive care unit) ranges between $15-20 thousand dollars per day – times that by eight babies, about $140,000 per day – for about two months (60 days) until they can be discharged to home. This does not include the cost to deliver these babies or the prenatal by a Perinatologist. Who is paying for all of this? What quality of life will these preemies have? Premature infants require lots of care and lots of dollars to fund the care they receive – at whose expense?
The mother of these babies is out on Workman’s Compensation for a back injury sustained at work – carrying eight fetuses would certainly exacerbate the back injury. Does this mean the mother collects Workman’s Compensation for life? There is no way this mother can support these babies alone financially without receiving public assistance unless she was born a Kennedy, and I don’t see them having litters of babies either.
Has this woman been enabled by society? Does this woman have a psychosis? Her rationale for having all of these children is: “They are my eggs and I want to have them.”
Women are born usually with two ovaries, both having hundreds of unfertilized eggs. Does this mother intend to try to birth them all? The fertilization process in sexual reproduction occurs for a reason; it is nature’s way of promoting natural selection. If science did not intervene, how many of these eggs would eventually become human beings?
The quality of life has to be strongly questioned for these children – all 14 of them. This scenario is unnatural and unethical, requiring both investigation and prosecution. The medical profession has revealed its dark side with these births. The quality of life has not been considered. Science, notoriety, and fame are dominant. To openly support this white woman who is under the age of 30 and unmarried with 14 children is to openly admit that black single mothers have been and continue to be stigmatized by society. Just in case there may be some doubt of the validity of my statements - here is a breakdown of the costs to care for these children: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090212/ap_on_re_us/octuplets
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Bardavon January 20, 2009 - Viewing Obama's Inauguration
Bardavon January 20, 2009 – Viewing Obama’s Inauguration
I could barely sleep – I was up at 4:43AM. I am excited today, I feel like it’s my birthday, like my water broke, like I won a huge lottery jackpot, I feel like I am in love. Today I am experiencing something like never before. I am going to watch the first black President of the United States of America be sworn in. I made it to the Bardavon an hour early and I gave away my extra tickets immediately to three women who gushed repeatedly of their luck in being on line near me. One of those women was Margaret from Wappingers Falls, NY. Margaret is a white, petite elderly woman with a bright smile. She is dressed to the hilt: silk pumps with rhinestones, stockings, a beautiful dress hat and a dress coat.
Margaret’s attire reflected my attitude – this is a special moment that I am a part of and I want to look and be at my best. My presence to witness Barak Obama’s inauguration is necessary and warranted. Margaret’s attire touched me; this white woman showed her enthusiasm for this black man who is about to become president of this nation. Margaret’s presence (standing on line in the cold) and attire signifies her respect and acceptance of such a significant event.
I did not want to watch this historic event alone at home – The Bardavon was the perfect choice: a very historic theatre – the Bardavon Theatre is the oldest theatre in the nation, built in 1869. This beautiful building with remarkable architecture and great seats is unforgettable. I had the additional good fortune of sitting with a woman whom I admire and call a friend; Leola Ruffin-McPhee. Leola and I talked about many things, but mostly about our sons and their future with a black president.
The crowd at the Bardavon was electric with smiles, laughter and hugs. Everyone was happy to bear witness to such a historic event. Attendees brought food donations for the local food pantry. This was a feel good event. I loved the fact that there were so many young people whom also attended the Bardavon. I have never seen such participation by both the young and elderly in a political event like the response for Obama.
Watching history being made, I was reminded of tradition. This inauguration was bigger than choosing the last Pope and bigger than a royal wedding. America had the opportunity to show tradition in a very diverse style with the new 44th President of the United States being a black man. What was not avoided, omitted nor forgotten was the fact that black slaves built and cared for the very capital that Barak Obama now presides over. At one time blacks were considered 3/5th of a man as Solidad O’Brien reiterated numerous times during the broadcast, to my joy.
Americans needed this inauguration and this black president as an infusion of hope and change. This nation is experiencing a sapping of confidence. I witnessed so many people today be energized with hope and sentiment of inclusion of all to do the hard work to make change that will benefit the nation. President Obama stated: “Greatness is never given, it is earned.” I applaud President Obama and his family for standing up and out at the cost of personal risk and great scrutiny to give hope and lead change.
I feel validated: for every time I was called the n-word while growing up as one of the few blacks in an Irish-Catholic neighborhood in NYC. For every time I faced racism and discrimination at my job and community right here in Dutchess County where I vote, pay taxes and contribute my time and efforts. I did cry today, my tears are of joy and hope that blacks will be embraced ending the hatred/ignorance. Racism and discrimination will not be eradicated with Obama as president. I am looking forward to the change his leadership will bring and the impact on our youth who hold the future.
I could barely sleep – I was up at 4:43AM. I am excited today, I feel like it’s my birthday, like my water broke, like I won a huge lottery jackpot, I feel like I am in love. Today I am experiencing something like never before. I am going to watch the first black President of the United States of America be sworn in. I made it to the Bardavon an hour early and I gave away my extra tickets immediately to three women who gushed repeatedly of their luck in being on line near me. One of those women was Margaret from Wappingers Falls, NY. Margaret is a white, petite elderly woman with a bright smile. She is dressed to the hilt: silk pumps with rhinestones, stockings, a beautiful dress hat and a dress coat.
Margaret’s attire reflected my attitude – this is a special moment that I am a part of and I want to look and be at my best. My presence to witness Barak Obama’s inauguration is necessary and warranted. Margaret’s attire touched me; this white woman showed her enthusiasm for this black man who is about to become president of this nation. Margaret’s presence (standing on line in the cold) and attire signifies her respect and acceptance of such a significant event.
I did not want to watch this historic event alone at home – The Bardavon was the perfect choice: a very historic theatre – the Bardavon Theatre is the oldest theatre in the nation, built in 1869. This beautiful building with remarkable architecture and great seats is unforgettable. I had the additional good fortune of sitting with a woman whom I admire and call a friend; Leola Ruffin-McPhee. Leola and I talked about many things, but mostly about our sons and their future with a black president.
The crowd at the Bardavon was electric with smiles, laughter and hugs. Everyone was happy to bear witness to such a historic event. Attendees brought food donations for the local food pantry. This was a feel good event. I loved the fact that there were so many young people whom also attended the Bardavon. I have never seen such participation by both the young and elderly in a political event like the response for Obama.
Watching history being made, I was reminded of tradition. This inauguration was bigger than choosing the last Pope and bigger than a royal wedding. America had the opportunity to show tradition in a very diverse style with the new 44th President of the United States being a black man. What was not avoided, omitted nor forgotten was the fact that black slaves built and cared for the very capital that Barak Obama now presides over. At one time blacks were considered 3/5th of a man as Solidad O’Brien reiterated numerous times during the broadcast, to my joy.
Americans needed this inauguration and this black president as an infusion of hope and change. This nation is experiencing a sapping of confidence. I witnessed so many people today be energized with hope and sentiment of inclusion of all to do the hard work to make change that will benefit the nation. President Obama stated: “Greatness is never given, it is earned.” I applaud President Obama and his family for standing up and out at the cost of personal risk and great scrutiny to give hope and lead change.
I feel validated: for every time I was called the n-word while growing up as one of the few blacks in an Irish-Catholic neighborhood in NYC. For every time I faced racism and discrimination at my job and community right here in Dutchess County where I vote, pay taxes and contribute my time and efforts. I did cry today, my tears are of joy and hope that blacks will be embraced ending the hatred/ignorance. Racism and discrimination will not be eradicated with Obama as president. I am looking forward to the change his leadership will bring and the impact on our youth who hold the future.
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Borders or Barnes & Noble: Where to Shop For the Avid Reader
Borders or Barnes & Noble: Where to Shop For the Avid Reader...
I read a lot - I would rather read than watch television. I only have television for my cartoons and a very few choice shows: CNN, The History Channel, etc. Reading is my serious hobby and as a single parent, I also like to get a bargain with it as well! I do enjoy visiting my library but I also enjoy owning books and then selling them. Both Barnes & Noble and Borders are in the area where I live, Poughkeepsie NY.
I shop for books quite frequently so I thought up an experiment for myself: Shop at both of these stores for twelve months (1 year) and see just how much I save. Borders has a free Rewards program that I am a member of. I am also a Barnes & Noble Reader’s Advantage that I pay a membership fee of $25.00 annually to join. Both Borders and Barnes & Noble have their receipts to indicate the savings on the purchases made. Neither store shows a cumulative computation of what has been saved. Borders receipts does not indicate to the member how much more needs to spent to $150.00 to get the reward.
In 12 months I visited both stores frequently. Borders provides members with emails of coupons for up to 40% discounts on merchandise, sometimes a minimum purchase has to be made but for the most part the savings is off of any regular priced item. I received these coupons about every 6-7 days with a standard 20% coupon found on the Borders web site these coupons can also be sent to your cell phone as well. Barnes & Noble sent me both coupons via email and postal mail, I would get these quarterly. Here is a quick breakdown of both stores:
Barnes & Noble Borders
*Reader’s Advantage Membership *Rewards Membership - Free.
$25.00 annually. Rewards Perks Membership is $29.95 annually.
*Coupons are given out sporadically with *Coupons given out quite
emphasis on Members with Master Cards. frequently up to 40% savings.
*Offers Members 40% off on hardcover *Offers members 30% off best
best sellers, 20 % off adult hardcover, sellers - no coupon needed.
10% off everything else.
*No reward for shopping frequently. *Borders Rewards Members
get $5.00 off every $150.00 spent with
rollover of amount spent.
*Free shipping with online order of $25.00. * Free shipping with online elitist of $25.00.
*Additional savings offered on featured authors. *Additional savings offered on featured authors.
*Return Policy - 14 days with store receipt. *Return Policy - 30 days with store receipt.
*WiFi Available as well as café services. *Wifi Available as well as café services.
Both stores offer online services. Reserving merchandise can be done with both stores via phone or on line. Borders offers kiosks so customers can do searches themselves, Barnes & Noble does not have this feature.
Drawbacks: Barnes & Noble requires a $25.00 membership fee paid up front in order to get savings for one year (12 months from date of sign up). The B&N customer has to spend in order to get back that $25.00 membership fee. Coupons came too infrequently and endorsed Master Card - I have Visa. Barnes & Noble stays open until 11PM, Borders is open until 9PM. Borders does not carry a large inventory, so pre-ordering helps besides placing orders via internet or phone with a 5-7 day wait time for book to arrive. Barnes & Noble gets books in faster 3-4 business days. Borders has a smaller magazine selection than Barnes & Noble. Borders does not have as many places to sit and lounge in their store as Barnes & Noble does. Neither store carries a positive selection of African American book selection, I have stated this obvious exclusion to the managers of both stores with no improvement noted. No Kwaanza merchandise but tons of Hannuakh merchandise. The African American books are blended in making them hard if not impossible to find, book selection for African Americans is very stereotypical with Barak Obama being the representation for all African Americans in all aspects of black life. I found Barnes & Noble to be a bit snobby or even elitist in their attitude; I guess being a big chain promotes this behavior. Borders is more customer friendly: I had an incident where I could not print my coupon, I called Borders and I was instructed to copy down the promotion code and bring it to the store so I could still get the savings. I feel as though Borders wants to hear what I have to say as a customer.
Attractions: Borders has kiosks throughout store so the customer can do look ups themselves.
Borders does get new releases faster and puts them on the shelves when allowed. Barnes & Noble is slow to shelf new merchandise. B& N staff is not ready to offer to go in the back and get a book for you; you are asked to come back later. Both stores participate in community activities that are diverse to a point. Both stores have café’s with coupon offers. Barnes & Noble has the customer make a purchase in order to get free offer. Borders does offer a customer satisfaction survey when completed the customer gets a 15% off coupon.
Staffing: For the few rude and obnoxious staff I have encountered at BOTH stores, the helpful and courteous ones diminish the negative ones. I cannot understand why B&N hires introverted people; this job requires some people skills and lots on people interaction. Some B&N staff would rather stick a pen in their own eye rather than talk with you. Both stores need staff that are knowledgeable on the merchandise being sold. Waldenbooks in the Galleria was great before it closed because of a staff person - Natalie had the African American section up to date with positive books and when talking with her, she knew tons about the subject because she is an avid reader as well. It was a sad day when the bookstore had to leave the mall.
Borders does have better savings in coupons and promotions for the avid reader. In a 12 month period I saved $279.10 at Borders with a free membership and I earned $20.00 in Reward Bucks. I saved $96.32 at Barnes & Noble with a membership fee of $25.00 making my actual savings total $71.32. I made 40 purchases at Barnes & Noble in 12 months and I made 34 purchases at Borders in the same time.
I saved more at Borders than I did at Barnes & Noble. I must admit that the other merchant I frequent is Amazon.com. I enjoy the availability of merchandise and the everyday savings of 20% or more. Amazon also offers free shipping on orders of $25.00 or more and I can also sell my books as well. I believe Barnes & Noble offers a way for merchants to sell their books through their web also. Borders want to hear - but what is done with communication is something else. Hope this little experiment is helpful to others as it was to myself!
Denise Bolds, MSW
I read a lot - I would rather read than watch television. I only have television for my cartoons and a very few choice shows: CNN, The History Channel, etc. Reading is my serious hobby and as a single parent, I also like to get a bargain with it as well! I do enjoy visiting my library but I also enjoy owning books and then selling them. Both Barnes & Noble and Borders are in the area where I live, Poughkeepsie NY.
I shop for books quite frequently so I thought up an experiment for myself: Shop at both of these stores for twelve months (1 year) and see just how much I save. Borders has a free Rewards program that I am a member of. I am also a Barnes & Noble Reader’s Advantage that I pay a membership fee of $25.00 annually to join. Both Borders and Barnes & Noble have their receipts to indicate the savings on the purchases made. Neither store shows a cumulative computation of what has been saved. Borders receipts does not indicate to the member how much more needs to spent to $150.00 to get the reward.
In 12 months I visited both stores frequently. Borders provides members with emails of coupons for up to 40% discounts on merchandise, sometimes a minimum purchase has to be made but for the most part the savings is off of any regular priced item. I received these coupons about every 6-7 days with a standard 20% coupon found on the Borders web site these coupons can also be sent to your cell phone as well. Barnes & Noble sent me both coupons via email and postal mail, I would get these quarterly. Here is a quick breakdown of both stores:
Barnes & Noble Borders
*Reader’s Advantage Membership *Rewards Membership - Free.
$25.00 annually. Rewards Perks Membership is $29.95 annually.
*Coupons are given out sporadically with *Coupons given out quite
emphasis on Members with Master Cards. frequently up to 40% savings.
*Offers Members 40% off on hardcover *Offers members 30% off best
best sellers, 20 % off adult hardcover, sellers - no coupon needed.
10% off everything else.
*No reward for shopping frequently. *Borders Rewards Members
get $5.00 off every $150.00 spent with
rollover of amount spent.
*Free shipping with online order of $25.00. * Free shipping with online elitist of $25.00.
*Additional savings offered on featured authors. *Additional savings offered on featured authors.
*Return Policy - 14 days with store receipt. *Return Policy - 30 days with store receipt.
*WiFi Available as well as café services. *Wifi Available as well as café services.
Both stores offer online services. Reserving merchandise can be done with both stores via phone or on line. Borders offers kiosks so customers can do searches themselves, Barnes & Noble does not have this feature.
Drawbacks: Barnes & Noble requires a $25.00 membership fee paid up front in order to get savings for one year (12 months from date of sign up). The B&N customer has to spend in order to get back that $25.00 membership fee. Coupons came too infrequently and endorsed Master Card - I have Visa. Barnes & Noble stays open until 11PM, Borders is open until 9PM. Borders does not carry a large inventory, so pre-ordering helps besides placing orders via internet or phone with a 5-7 day wait time for book to arrive. Barnes & Noble gets books in faster 3-4 business days. Borders has a smaller magazine selection than Barnes & Noble. Borders does not have as many places to sit and lounge in their store as Barnes & Noble does. Neither store carries a positive selection of African American book selection, I have stated this obvious exclusion to the managers of both stores with no improvement noted. No Kwaanza merchandise but tons of Hannuakh merchandise. The African American books are blended in making them hard if not impossible to find, book selection for African Americans is very stereotypical with Barak Obama being the representation for all African Americans in all aspects of black life. I found Barnes & Noble to be a bit snobby or even elitist in their attitude; I guess being a big chain promotes this behavior. Borders is more customer friendly: I had an incident where I could not print my coupon, I called Borders and I was instructed to copy down the promotion code and bring it to the store so I could still get the savings. I feel as though Borders wants to hear what I have to say as a customer.
Attractions: Borders has kiosks throughout store so the customer can do look ups themselves.
Borders does get new releases faster and puts them on the shelves when allowed. Barnes & Noble is slow to shelf new merchandise. B& N staff is not ready to offer to go in the back and get a book for you; you are asked to come back later. Both stores participate in community activities that are diverse to a point. Both stores have café’s with coupon offers. Barnes & Noble has the customer make a purchase in order to get free offer. Borders does offer a customer satisfaction survey when completed the customer gets a 15% off coupon.
Staffing: For the few rude and obnoxious staff I have encountered at BOTH stores, the helpful and courteous ones diminish the negative ones. I cannot understand why B&N hires introverted people; this job requires some people skills and lots on people interaction. Some B&N staff would rather stick a pen in their own eye rather than talk with you. Both stores need staff that are knowledgeable on the merchandise being sold. Waldenbooks in the Galleria was great before it closed because of a staff person - Natalie had the African American section up to date with positive books and when talking with her, she knew tons about the subject because she is an avid reader as well. It was a sad day when the bookstore had to leave the mall.
Borders does have better savings in coupons and promotions for the avid reader. In a 12 month period I saved $279.10 at Borders with a free membership and I earned $20.00 in Reward Bucks. I saved $96.32 at Barnes & Noble with a membership fee of $25.00 making my actual savings total $71.32. I made 40 purchases at Barnes & Noble in 12 months and I made 34 purchases at Borders in the same time.
I saved more at Borders than I did at Barnes & Noble. I must admit that the other merchant I frequent is Amazon.com. I enjoy the availability of merchandise and the everyday savings of 20% or more. Amazon also offers free shipping on orders of $25.00 or more and I can also sell my books as well. I believe Barnes & Noble offers a way for merchants to sell their books through their web also. Borders want to hear - but what is done with communication is something else. Hope this little experiment is helpful to others as it was to myself!
Denise Bolds, MSW
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Dr. Plasker's 100 Year Lifestyle
Dr. Plasker Gold’s Gym Poughkeepsie NY January 7, 2009
I was invited to hear a Chiropractor speak on aging health hosted at Gold’s Gym because I am a Medical Social Worker. Gold’s Gym on Titusville Road is a monolith of health and fitness, a city complete with a health bar! Dr. Plasker is an ordinary looking man, who appears friendly and energetic. Plasker starts his discussion giving the audience a very vivid description of a scenario that occurred in his office involving a 96 year old patient named Max. Max was the typical elderly person in America: Medically afflicted, broke financially and alone. Dr. Plasker works with Max and in time, Max responds to the healing of human touch. I won’t go further into the story as I do not want to give it all away.
What I will say is Dr. Plasker uses Max as a springboard to dive into his lecture. As I was listening I wondered what nationality Max was and as I looked around the room of my fellow attendees, there was not very much diversity present - once again I could count the number of persons of color on one hand. Let me continue...
Dr. Plasker goes onto provide statistics on the elderly: There are 85,000 century centurarians (those who are over 100 years old) in the United States - this age group is the fastest growing. Why? Technology and advances in medical science: very few people work in hard manual labor as our ancestors did and the advances of medical technology produced education/awareness of what can keep a person healthy - this knowledge was not available twenty years ago. The United States is 45th in the world of being healthy! This ranking is outrageous!
Dr. Plasker goes onto to rant that genetics has nothing to do with getting to be 100 years old, it is a person’s quality of life and lifestyle that promotes longevity (30% genetics - 70% lifestyle) Whoa! Tell that to my grandmother’s both maternal and paternal who never smoke nor drank, and both of these women were quite vigorous in active lifestyles; both of these women died of diseases that did not reflect a non-caring lifestyle. My grandmother’s died of stress triggered diseases that was culturally induced. There are very health conscious people that I have encountered in my profession that have done all the right things and STILL got that cancer, heart attack and even AIDS diagnosis. Dr. Plasker says we rely upon genetics as a method of explanation for health outcomes and what should be focused upon is fitness, eating healthy and having good relationships in all areas of life. Well, lets tell that to the 20 year old who has to undergo a double masctectomy because she is genetically disposed to the most virulent form of breast cancer there is. My ire was up!
While I already had my disagreements with Dr. Plasker - I tried my best to remain optimistic and hear the rest of what he had to say: True, the concept of aging has been acted upon as a person being sedentary and removed from society. The most successful elders I have encountered are still employed, part time or full, volunteer in their community and they are their own health managers: they watch what they eat and exercise regularly- these people take care of themselves. Only in America are the elderly discarded in the fashion they are - I could not agree with him more. Dr. Plasker also recommends that everyone visit a nursing home to get the picture of the elderly in America. Is it a blessing or a curse to possess this knowledge to extend life when Americans do not value nor address the elderly population adequately?
Dr. Plasker so far STILL did not include the diversity factor in his discussion - I listened on: Crisis Motivation was the next discussion - Dr. Plasker recommends that we should not get to that point in order to realize and embrace health living. True - but today most people live in crisis and unfortunately, our health care system is a reactive one - not a proactive one. Dr. Plasker asked the audience if they would like it if their physicians embraced this model of practice and of course everyone agreed. I am not sure if anyone else in the audience remembers medical history: how - Chiropractors were greatly ostracized and discredited by Medical Physicians. Also, there is the profit concept: there isn’t any money in healthy people: imagine if the world were healthy - where would all the doctors and nurses go? The pharmaculticals? (Drugs)
How would hospitals and care centers survive? If life is extended how will morticians stay in business? How will any of these entities I have mentioned make a profit? The entire model would have to shift in order to make a profit.
Speaking of profit - Dr. Plasker gave quite a bit of his talk pitching Gold’s Gym, energy drinks and work out machines - I am sure some of these have endorsed his book. Even Jack LaLane was also pitched as he endorses Dr. Plasker’s book. All pitching aside , Dr. Plasker had more to say: "Take your head out of the sand when it comes to your health, your life! Change is easy - thinking about change is hard - draw a line in the sand. Change comes one choice at a time - Think progress, not perfection - do not compromise. Quality starts with you making changes so make changes compelling. Approach change with ideal in mind to live to be 100 years old!"
Dr. Plasker also states: "We are blessed with a inherited amount of energy and we misdirect this energy." I fully agree and unfortunately the media and societal norms contribute to this misdirection. Yes, we must direct our energy to be positive and productive. Dr. Plasker believes we can direct our energy expression of our genes. To do this, take a sheet of paper and fold it in the middle on the left make the title Energy Drainers on the right side make the title Energy Enchanters - make this list for a full day. Start to substitute the energy drainers with the energy enchanters - in other words, replace the positive with the negative.
Dr. Plasker believes we are killing ourselves with food and a sedentary attitude. I agree but, I also think Americans have an attitude of not being satisfied. Go to Sam’s , BJ’s or Costcos and you will see people with multiple cartloads of food. We don’t need that much. We also don’t need the huge houses or automobiles either. The newest addiction - flat screen televisions: you have a 46 inch that is working great, but you still want the bigger one. We are sedentary, not just because of age but because of national apathy and desensitization.
Dr. Plasker states: "Making changes in lifestyle, one can change genetics." I still have my reservations on that idea. I would be more impressed with Dr. Plasker if he took his pitch to the other fastest growing age group for disease - young people. School age children are the highest in the nation for depression, obesity, diabetes and hypertension. The future generation is coming out of the start gates sick. We need to heal your youth if we are going to heal the future and have sound contributors to society, not burdens.
Dr. Plasker has definitely upset with some of his discussion - I just do not know how aware he is. I am very much in agreement with Dr. Plasker on the following: We are a drug culture and we solve everything with a pill. As a Medical Social Worker I see addictions supported by an MD script and paid for with government funds. Americans are addicted. Medical School Students are URGED to stay away from drug companies. I have said this a million times: go and sit in a doctor’s waiting room fora few hours and you will see numerous drug reps in and out of that office all day long.
The FDA CANNOT fulfill its mission, scientific organization is weak - yes, its no secret when the very drugs taken to alleviate one thing, triggers another more severe. Dr. Plasker’s discussion also included:
Health Care Hierarchy of the 100 Year Life Style - Which is described as:
Self: You do this and no one else i.e sweating
Health: Dental cleaning, Chiropractor care
Crisis Care: Diseases.
The value system for nursing home generation is flipped: Do nothing, wait for crisis and then manage the crisis. The mantra is : "If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it."
The core message of Dr. Plasker’s talk is: We simply cannot afford to get sick! As a Medical Social Worker - that is the absolute truth. Try getting sick and see how much your illness with costs between hospitalization, specialist and rehabilitation fees. The profit, protection and professionalism is simply not affordable for most Americans.
Another part of Dr. Plasker’s pitch is a Gold’s Gym slogan: "Get your ESS in shape!" ESS stands for: Endurance, Strength and Structure.
In conclusion, Dr. Plasker talks a good talk, but his model is NOT diverse and should encompass every person. As with science, there will always be exclusions - the most healthiest person will contract a disease. There are factors that simply cannot be controlled. The exclusion being the unfortunate accident - which Dr. Plasker agrees does not relate to his model. Dr. Plasker does raise some poignant issues of aging: The elderly will need more money because they are living longer. Historically, the life span for our ancestors was much less (about 60) because of hard labor, and the lack of medical advances. In the past Medicare worked because the life span was shorter - now its longer and the elderly are using up the funds resulting in future generations not having any money for their turn on Medicare. I think about Dr. Plasker every time I see my 80 year old neighbor outside clearing the snow in his driveway - AND mine.
The lack of diversity in Dr. Plasker’s model disturbs me. There has always been a separation of quality of lifestyle and environment due to race and culture. Do people of color have the time and ability to change their environment? To prime, prep and then play as Dr. Plasker suggests to that there is quality time in aging versus the attitude of retirement? Has mental health been included in Dr. Plasker’s model? True, depression is alleviated with exercise and diet, the challenge is in getting that depressed person to engage. Hollistic health care involves the entire sphere of the patient’s lifestyle as well as the avenues of health care that also include Massage Therapists, Reiki Therapist, Chiropractors, Nutritionists and Acupuncturists. Dr. Plakser’s model does not address socio-economics or diversity. His model could have the potential to go so much further if he would incorporate Medical Social Workers into his knowledge base! (Now there’s a pitch!)
I was invited to hear a Chiropractor speak on aging health hosted at Gold’s Gym because I am a Medical Social Worker. Gold’s Gym on Titusville Road is a monolith of health and fitness, a city complete with a health bar! Dr. Plasker is an ordinary looking man, who appears friendly and energetic. Plasker starts his discussion giving the audience a very vivid description of a scenario that occurred in his office involving a 96 year old patient named Max. Max was the typical elderly person in America: Medically afflicted, broke financially and alone. Dr. Plasker works with Max and in time, Max responds to the healing of human touch. I won’t go further into the story as I do not want to give it all away.
What I will say is Dr. Plasker uses Max as a springboard to dive into his lecture. As I was listening I wondered what nationality Max was and as I looked around the room of my fellow attendees, there was not very much diversity present - once again I could count the number of persons of color on one hand. Let me continue...
Dr. Plasker goes onto provide statistics on the elderly: There are 85,000 century centurarians (those who are over 100 years old) in the United States - this age group is the fastest growing. Why? Technology and advances in medical science: very few people work in hard manual labor as our ancestors did and the advances of medical technology produced education/awareness of what can keep a person healthy - this knowledge was not available twenty years ago. The United States is 45th in the world of being healthy! This ranking is outrageous!
Dr. Plasker goes onto to rant that genetics has nothing to do with getting to be 100 years old, it is a person’s quality of life and lifestyle that promotes longevity (30% genetics - 70% lifestyle) Whoa! Tell that to my grandmother’s both maternal and paternal who never smoke nor drank, and both of these women were quite vigorous in active lifestyles; both of these women died of diseases that did not reflect a non-caring lifestyle. My grandmother’s died of stress triggered diseases that was culturally induced. There are very health conscious people that I have encountered in my profession that have done all the right things and STILL got that cancer, heart attack and even AIDS diagnosis. Dr. Plasker says we rely upon genetics as a method of explanation for health outcomes and what should be focused upon is fitness, eating healthy and having good relationships in all areas of life. Well, lets tell that to the 20 year old who has to undergo a double masctectomy because she is genetically disposed to the most virulent form of breast cancer there is. My ire was up!
While I already had my disagreements with Dr. Plasker - I tried my best to remain optimistic and hear the rest of what he had to say: True, the concept of aging has been acted upon as a person being sedentary and removed from society. The most successful elders I have encountered are still employed, part time or full, volunteer in their community and they are their own health managers: they watch what they eat and exercise regularly- these people take care of themselves. Only in America are the elderly discarded in the fashion they are - I could not agree with him more. Dr. Plasker also recommends that everyone visit a nursing home to get the picture of the elderly in America. Is it a blessing or a curse to possess this knowledge to extend life when Americans do not value nor address the elderly population adequately?
Dr. Plasker so far STILL did not include the diversity factor in his discussion - I listened on: Crisis Motivation was the next discussion - Dr. Plasker recommends that we should not get to that point in order to realize and embrace health living. True - but today most people live in crisis and unfortunately, our health care system is a reactive one - not a proactive one. Dr. Plasker asked the audience if they would like it if their physicians embraced this model of practice and of course everyone agreed. I am not sure if anyone else in the audience remembers medical history: how - Chiropractors were greatly ostracized and discredited by Medical Physicians. Also, there is the profit concept: there isn’t any money in healthy people: imagine if the world were healthy - where would all the doctors and nurses go? The pharmaculticals? (Drugs)
How would hospitals and care centers survive? If life is extended how will morticians stay in business? How will any of these entities I have mentioned make a profit? The entire model would have to shift in order to make a profit.
Speaking of profit - Dr. Plasker gave quite a bit of his talk pitching Gold’s Gym, energy drinks and work out machines - I am sure some of these have endorsed his book. Even Jack LaLane was also pitched as he endorses Dr. Plasker’s book. All pitching aside , Dr. Plasker had more to say: "Take your head out of the sand when it comes to your health, your life! Change is easy - thinking about change is hard - draw a line in the sand. Change comes one choice at a time - Think progress, not perfection - do not compromise. Quality starts with you making changes so make changes compelling. Approach change with ideal in mind to live to be 100 years old!"
Dr. Plasker also states: "We are blessed with a inherited amount of energy and we misdirect this energy." I fully agree and unfortunately the media and societal norms contribute to this misdirection. Yes, we must direct our energy to be positive and productive. Dr. Plasker believes we can direct our energy expression of our genes. To do this, take a sheet of paper and fold it in the middle on the left make the title Energy Drainers on the right side make the title Energy Enchanters - make this list for a full day. Start to substitute the energy drainers with the energy enchanters - in other words, replace the positive with the negative.
Dr. Plasker believes we are killing ourselves with food and a sedentary attitude. I agree but, I also think Americans have an attitude of not being satisfied. Go to Sam’s , BJ’s or Costcos and you will see people with multiple cartloads of food. We don’t need that much. We also don’t need the huge houses or automobiles either. The newest addiction - flat screen televisions: you have a 46 inch that is working great, but you still want the bigger one. We are sedentary, not just because of age but because of national apathy and desensitization.
Dr. Plasker states: "Making changes in lifestyle, one can change genetics." I still have my reservations on that idea. I would be more impressed with Dr. Plasker if he took his pitch to the other fastest growing age group for disease - young people. School age children are the highest in the nation for depression, obesity, diabetes and hypertension. The future generation is coming out of the start gates sick. We need to heal your youth if we are going to heal the future and have sound contributors to society, not burdens.
Dr. Plasker has definitely upset with some of his discussion - I just do not know how aware he is. I am very much in agreement with Dr. Plasker on the following: We are a drug culture and we solve everything with a pill. As a Medical Social Worker I see addictions supported by an MD script and paid for with government funds. Americans are addicted. Medical School Students are URGED to stay away from drug companies. I have said this a million times: go and sit in a doctor’s waiting room fora few hours and you will see numerous drug reps in and out of that office all day long.
The FDA CANNOT fulfill its mission, scientific organization is weak - yes, its no secret when the very drugs taken to alleviate one thing, triggers another more severe. Dr. Plasker’s discussion also included:
Health Care Hierarchy of the 100 Year Life Style - Which is described as:
Self: You do this and no one else i.e sweating
Health: Dental cleaning, Chiropractor care
Crisis Care: Diseases.
The value system for nursing home generation is flipped: Do nothing, wait for crisis and then manage the crisis. The mantra is : "If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it."
The core message of Dr. Plasker’s talk is: We simply cannot afford to get sick! As a Medical Social Worker - that is the absolute truth. Try getting sick and see how much your illness with costs between hospitalization, specialist and rehabilitation fees. The profit, protection and professionalism is simply not affordable for most Americans.
Another part of Dr. Plasker’s pitch is a Gold’s Gym slogan: "Get your ESS in shape!" ESS stands for: Endurance, Strength and Structure.
In conclusion, Dr. Plasker talks a good talk, but his model is NOT diverse and should encompass every person. As with science, there will always be exclusions - the most healthiest person will contract a disease. There are factors that simply cannot be controlled. The exclusion being the unfortunate accident - which Dr. Plasker agrees does not relate to his model. Dr. Plasker does raise some poignant issues of aging: The elderly will need more money because they are living longer. Historically, the life span for our ancestors was much less (about 60) because of hard labor, and the lack of medical advances. In the past Medicare worked because the life span was shorter - now its longer and the elderly are using up the funds resulting in future generations not having any money for their turn on Medicare. I think about Dr. Plasker every time I see my 80 year old neighbor outside clearing the snow in his driveway - AND mine.
The lack of diversity in Dr. Plasker’s model disturbs me. There has always been a separation of quality of lifestyle and environment due to race and culture. Do people of color have the time and ability to change their environment? To prime, prep and then play as Dr. Plasker suggests to that there is quality time in aging versus the attitude of retirement? Has mental health been included in Dr. Plasker’s model? True, depression is alleviated with exercise and diet, the challenge is in getting that depressed person to engage. Hollistic health care involves the entire sphere of the patient’s lifestyle as well as the avenues of health care that also include Massage Therapists, Reiki Therapist, Chiropractors, Nutritionists and Acupuncturists. Dr. Plakser’s model does not address socio-economics or diversity. His model could have the potential to go so much further if he would incorporate Medical Social Workers into his knowledge base! (Now there’s a pitch!)
Sunday, January 11, 2009
First Steps...Of A Wonderful Journey
I have had this blog spot for awhile - but being a child of the 60's it has taken me awhile to actually do something with it! It is always amazing just how much resources we possess and never utilize fully...I have saved quite a bit of my writings...and my book is to be published very soon: "Raising Princes to Be Kings: A Black Sinle Mother's Guide to Raising Her Black Son." I LOVE to write AND read!
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